Just to let you know that I am working on a new programme of webcasts which will have loads of information about your child’s behaviour. It’s all a bit hi teck for me but I have to move with the times lol but I am looking forward to getting these up and running so watch this space.  I am also launching my book on Amazon in the next few days and giving out some free copies so please check back for information about that.

Please let me know your questions that you would love to hear about on the webcast.

Speak soon Ruth

1 Mindset

There is no way round it you need the right mind set, if you don’t have the right mindset you may make short term improvements but these will be at the expense of your child long term happiness and success.

2 Self Management

Remember that you are your own manager and that you have to be in charge of running your life as you want it to be.  You need to manage your time and priorities effectively and lead and inspire your family. You are best to be a pro-active manager and decide what sort of parent you want to be, this way you will be able to make a plan ready to handle situations that come up during the day and not react in a way that will make your child’s behaviour worse.

3 Take Action

Any plan is only useful if you take sufficient action on it.  To do this you need to acquire the correct knowledge and make an organised effort to work towards that plan.  Remember that applied knowledge = power and if you don’t take action to do something different nothing will change!

4 Money

Every parent needs money to bring up their family.  Money enables a parent to be who they want to be, do what they want to do and live more of the life they want.  If you don’t have money to buy in extra help, knowledge or support where it is needed you end up trying to do all the work and figuring it out for yourself which is very time consuming and adds to the stress.

So what’s stopping you from reaching success?

1 Indecision

At some point you need to make a decision on what you are going to do otherwise you will continue to be stuck.  But why don’t you make the decision that you need to make?

2 Doubt

If you are not sure what to do for the best how can you make a decision to move forward?

3 Fear

If you don’t know what to do, you can become fearful of doing anything, this will just make a bad situation worse.

If you would like more help being a successful parent, contact me now, please leave your comments below I would love to hear from you:)

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Like our own, a child’s mind has tens of thousands of thoughts a day, which come from what others have said to them and from what they say to themselves and from their environment.  These thoughts include short statements, or sentences that go over and over in their mind. A child’s thoughts have a direct effect on how a child feels and how a child feels is directly linked to their behaviour.

The more positive the thoughts the more positive the behaviour will be. For example a young child starting nursery, who goes into class feeling miserable and shy and who is thinking to himself that he hasn’t got any friends and he wants to go home, is far less likely to attract some friends because he may be sitting alone and not wanting to go and play with the others.

Without realizing it a child who misbehaves will have negative thoughts in their mind like an old record on a record player going over and over, saying things like, “I’m naughty, no one likes me”, “I don’t want to” and so on. Likewise a child who behaves well will have more positive thoughts in their mind and a better outlook on life. They will say things to themselves such as “I can do this”, “This is fun”, “I can help”, “I have nice friends” and “I am good”.

Because we have so many thoughts, those that we have regularly or those that have emotional significance to us will get stored in our subconscious mind.  Like when we learn to ride a bike it eventually becomes second nature and you just do it on auto pilot.  It is the same as child behaviour, the more a child is told that they are bad, naughty and no good, the more that it becomes embedded into their subconscious mind, this damages their self esteem and confidence and ultimately is the root cause of bad behaviour, low achievement and un-happiness.

To transform a child’s behaviour we first have to re-program their mind to think better more positive thoughts, this way they will feel better and behave better.

Child Behaviour Direct focuses on techniques that help parent’s to improve their child’s negative self talk so that they feel better and consequently behave better.

You can do this in a variety of ways, for example, downloading the Parent’s Guide to Children’s Behaviour E-book, taking a course online or at one of the local groups or contacting me for one to one support.

If you feel that this blog rings true for you and you would like to make positive changes right away, contact me know to have a chat and get started. childbehaviour@hotmail.co.uk or use the contacts page above.

Take care

Ruth