Welcome to my new website and the first new blog. I hope you love it, like I do:) Please send your comments to my email address at childbehaviour@hotmail.co.uk, it would be great to hear from you. I want to start by enlarging on what the ethos of child behaviour direct is and talk about exactly why children behave the way that they do.
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Like our own, a child’s mind has tens of thousands of thoughts a day, which come from what others have said to them and from what they say to themselves and from their environment. These thoughts include short statements, or sentences that go over and over in their mind. A child’s thoughts have a direct effect on how a child feels and how a child feels is directly linked to their behaviour.
The more positive the thoughts the more positive the behaviour will be. For example a young child starting nursery, who goes into class feeling miserable and shy and who is thinking to himself that he hasn’t got any friends and he wants to go home, is far less likely to attract some friends because he may be sitting alone and not wanting to go and play with the others.
Without realizing it a child who misbehaves will have negative thoughts in their mind like an old record on a record player going over and over, saying things like, “I’m naughty, no one likes me”, “I don’t want to” and so on. Likewise a child who behaves well will have more positive thoughts in their mind and a better outlook on life. They will say things to themselves such as “I can do this”, “This is fun”, “I can help”, “I have nice friends” and “I am good”.
Because we have so many thoughts, those that we have regularly or those that have emotional significance to us will get stored in our subconscious mind. Like when we learn to ride a bike it eventually becomes second nature and you just do it on auto pilot. It is the same as child behaviour, the more a child is told that they are bad, naughty and no good, the more that it becomes embedded into their subconscious mind, this damages their self esteem and confidence and ultimately is the root cause of bad behaviour, low achievement and un-happiness.
To transform a child’s behaviour we first have to re-program their mind to think better more positive thoughts, this way they will feel better and behave better.
Child Behaviour Direct focuses on techniques that help parent’s to improve their child’s negative self talk so that they feel better and consequently behave better.
You can do this in a variety of ways, for example, downloading the Parent’s Guide to Children’s Behaviour E-book, taking a course online or at one of the local groups or contacting me for one to one support.
If you feel that this blog rings true for you and you would like to make positive changes right away, contact me know to have a chat and get started. childbehaviour@hotmail.co.uk or use the contacts page above.
Take care
Ruth
