If you are not making the changes that you want you may be pleased to know that it is not your fault...It's your brains fault.....The brain has two modes.1. Auto Pilot.You see the brain likes to repeat the same old thoughts because it means that it doesn't have to work so hard.So you do the same old thing every day even though you know it's not that helpful or even getting you the results that you wanted.You are choosing to stay on auto pilot because it's easier...2. Manual.When you want to get something done you have to direct your thoughts and tell yourself what to do and remind yourself to do it, like go to the gym, eat right and take care of the children.Why is it so hard to change?The brain has way to much information to take in and way to many choices to consider. Because of this it's way easier to simply eat, say or do the same things that you have always done.Be Careful... You brain will use feelings to make it even harder for you to change...For example: I am too tired, it's too late, too hard, can't be bothered, I don't have enough money, it's not that bad, it's too scary and so on..........When you get a feeling like this, you can quickly become overwhelmed which almost gives you permission not to do the thing you wanted or needed to do in the first place.How to teach your brain to get what you want..Give yourself a big enough WHY..For example: by thinking that there is a wedding coming up, or you want to go on holiday soon, you may just convince your brain to go ahead and make the changes that you wanted, such as loose the weight or make the money because you will feel good.More Good News...It will help with children too.If you want you children to change what they do, such as get off the play station, tidy up their room or do their homework...Give them a good enough positive reason WHY to motive them and to convince their brain that it's a good idea.For example: Come on let's sort this room out so we can sleep better at night and get off to town after.Remember....âââââââAlthough it's not your fault that your brain likes auto pilot mode the best, it is your responsibility to over rode it and get into manual mode.The good news is.. it does get easier the more you train your thoughts what to do.GOOD LUCK and let us know how you get on...
Single parents are a special kind of
From working a full-time job to managing a full-time household, they take on everyday a burden that most parents get to share.
As challenging as that sounds, being a single parent is also extremely rewarding. You get to decide on the rules and disciplinary strategies, without anyone second-guessing your decision-making skills.
When it comes to birthdays and holidays, you get all of the appreciation for getting the best gifts or coming up with the best party ideas.
While the benefits of solo parenting do stack up, they aren’t without their hurdles, roadblocks and stressors.
From maintaining an organized home to managing a busy parenting schedule, being a single parent also requires focus and determination.
Here are a two big questions to answer that will help you navigate the path of single parenthood so you can enjoy the perks more and stress less.
1. How do I keep a good, healthy routine for my kids—and for me?
The most precious commodity a single parent has is time. Whether it is time for yourself, time for your job or time for your kids, there just never seems to be enough of it.
That's why creating a good healthy routine, for both you and your kids, can help you maximize and make the most of every moment in those short 24 hours.
Establish a routine that you can stick to that improve the attitude of your entire household:
Starting everyone off with a regular routine will make your entire day run more smoothly.
From sitting down and having breakfast together to taking the dog for a walk, you can help establish a morning routinethat emphasizes mental and physical health for both you and your kids.
Studies show thatdepression ratescan be higher for both children and parents in a single parent household.
That's why setting a morning routine can help everyone tackle the stressors of the day with a positive attitude.
Night time routines can be especially fun for little ones.
From brushing your teeth together to reading before bed, evening routines can help you teach your children values, self care and responsibility, while also bonding after a long day apart.
2. What can I do to stay more organized?
You’ve got a lot on your plate—from planning that presentation for next week’s board meeting to making it to your child’s big soccer game.
Keeping everyone’s schedules organized so that the day runs smoothly is, honestly, another full-time job.
Here are a few helpful hints for keeping a more organized household, from keeping track of choir practice to making sure those library books are returned on time:
- Hang a family calendar in a highly-trafficked room, like the kitchen or the entryway.
- Be sure all events, due dates, deadlines and tasks are clear, visible and updated.
- Stay super organized by color-coding items by person or category. That way with one glance you know just how your week should go.
- Organize your entryway or mudroom so that everything you and your kids need before heading out the door is organized and right at your fingertips.
- Get hooks to hang backpacks and coats.
- Keep shoes neatly stored and hang a to-do or a reminder list so that the essentials are accessible during the mad rush out the door.
During the toughest moments of a single parent’s life, just remember that you can—and will—do this. It’s important that you have a strong support network, whether it’s a friend to call when you’re stressed to the max or a family member to come by to give you a break.
Making time for yourself, like working out over lunch or joining a colleague for happy hour, is a huge boost to your mental health. If you’re happier, your children will be happier, so be sure to make time for self-care.
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