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  1. golden rule

    If you like many parents often find yourself sleep deprived, overwhelmed with the to-do list and feeling that there’s never enough time in the day to do it all, then you are not alone.

    Often, we believe that in order to meet the demands of home life, childcare and work, we have to sacrifice our own needs and there is a sense that “I can’t do everything, and my needs will have to wait.”

  2. BUILDING TRUST

    Over the years of working with parents, I have often had a conversation about trust.

    They may have little or no trust in their children and this usually causes a rift between them, which over time erodes their relationship and causes a lot of stress.

    Common trust issues include:

    • Trusting children to be home on time.
    • Trusting children to make good decisions.
    • Trusting children not to take drugs.
    • Trusting children to tell the truth.
    • Trusting children to be careful.

    “Trust is built in very small mo­ments,” says best-selling author Brené Brown, PhD.

  3. lie social M

    Do you feel that sometimes your child does not tell you the truth? Are you worried that you can’t trust them anymore and feel that you would like to improve your relationship?  Children start to learn to lie from a young age because they are trying to make sense of the world and learn about what is right and wrong. When children repeatedly tell lies, such as telling you that they are somewhere they are not, then it can be very concerning, and we need to think of ways to manage this.

     

  4. Master Potty training
     
    If you are going through this huge milestone in your child's life, mastering potty training with these simple with these 4 easy tips… 
     

    1. Look for signs that they are ready:
     
    • Starting to say words associated with it such as ‘wee, or potty.’
    • They notice that they are making a bowel movement or wetting their nappy, by telling you or squatting down.
    • They are ready to follow easy instructions, such as ‘Pass me the cup.’
    • They are showing signs of not liking being wet or having a soiled nappy.
    • They are having extended dry periods in their nappy.
    • They are showing an interest in the bathroom or older children using the toilet or potty.
     
    2. Be prepared:
     
    • A portable potty:
     
    Keep the potty with you as much as possible, you will never know when you will need it.
     
    • Stickers:
     
    Make it a positive experience by going sticker crazy by putting them on your child’s clothes each time they attempt do something positive towards potty training. 
     
    • Introduce the potty:
     
    Help to make sure your child knows expected what is expected of them by introducing the potty, reading children’s books and talking about potty training.
     
    • Pull up pants or real pants:
     
    Pull up pants make it easier for you, but harder for children to notice when they have had an accident.  They may be a great idea if you really need them occasionally, yet they can really hinder progress.
     
    • Toilet seat and a step:
     
    Some children quickly transition from the potty to the toilet or may even prefer it. Using toddler seats and steps to help children onto the toilet is a great way to encourage independence. Little boys often like to use a step to be able to manage the toilet just like dad so give them the choice if you can.
     
    3. Be positive and encouraging:
     
    Successful potty training is all about making it a positive experience. Praise any attempt from your child, such as pulling up their own pants or sitting on the potty, even if they don’t produce anything. 
     
    Remember the importance of praising exactly what they have done for example:
     
    ‘Good girl you sat on the potty.’  
    ‘What a good boy, you pulled up your own pants.’
     
    Try not to be too over the top that you make them self-conscious. (I know it's very exciting.)
     
    4. Set yourself up for success:
     
    • Take your child to the potty regularly.
     
    Take your child to the potty every hour or so, before events such as going out, and after meal times to help them child become familiar with routines and avoid accidents.
     
    • Don’t be too harsh.
     
    Accidents will happen and being harsh and making your child feel bad about not getting to the potty on time is not helpful. INSTEAD try to be calm and patient and they will get there in their own time.
     
    • Ask for what you want.
     
    Asking for what you want means that you are far more likely to get it.
     
    ‘Sit on the potty.’ Instead of ‘Stop running around the bathroom.’
     
    ‘Try to get to the potty next time.’ Instead of ‘You have wet your pants that’s very naughty.’
     
    Remember:
     
    Being judgmental and critical of your child will only make them feel bad, which will make them less cooperative and possibly cause anxiety about potty training.
     
    Try and make it fun for your children by making it a positive experience with lots of encouragement. 
     
    Remember: If at first you don’t succeed, leave it a while and try again another time…it will happen :)
     
    Let us know how you get on.....