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  1. 5 REASONS YOU SHOULD NOT SWEAR IN FRONT OF THE KIDS!

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    Girl pink chineseI I was just doing a radio interview on BBC Radio Derby, talking about swearing and if it harms children.  What do you think? Here are my thoughts! 

    5. REASONS WHY WE SHOULD NOT SWEAR IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN: 

    1. SWEARING CAN HINDER GOOD COMMUNICATION:

    Children find it hard enough to understand and express their feelings appropriately, so we need to set them up for success by being a good role model. It is better to avoid swear words and express what is really bothering you appropriately so they learn to do the same.

    FOR EXAMPLE:

    When you are stressed because they are constantly leaving their school bags dumped by the front door when they come home, you may be tempted to swear under your breath to show disapproval.  If however you spoke appropriately your reactions may be something like:

    " I feel increasingly frustrated when you leave your school things by the door after we agreed that you would put them in the cupboard when you got home.  Please will you try to remember and go and move them just now." 

    2. SWEARING IS NOT SOCIALLY ACCEPTED:

    Swearing is like any other socially unacceptable behaviour and we need to teach children that it is not OK so that they are set up for success out in the world.

    FOR EXAMPLE: A parent who is screaming vulgar words at the referee at the school football match is showing disrespect to the children and parents around. Most people would find this offensive and unacceptable, so it is not helpful in any way for children to hear it.

    We could change this by positively encouraging all the good behaviour that we see in the match to help create a positive experience that is far more enjoyable for everyone.

    3. YOUNG CHILDREN DOWNLOADING ALL THE INFORMATION FROM THEIR ENVIRONMENT:

    We must be mindful of what we are putting into our child’s minds so that we can help build positive resilient children who have a growth mindset.  Children are always listening to and taking information from their environment, even when they look like they are not. Up to the age of 6 years old children are simply downloading this information and storing it in their subconscious mind.  This is why it is important to nurture their mindset and fill it with positivity as much as we can.

    4. CHILDREN DO MORE OF WHAT THEY GET ATTENTION FOR:

    If you are swearing in front of your children, they are likely going to copy you. They will quickly learn that swearing gets your attention or a good reaction from you and others and keep on doing it for more attention. If you find that they are swearing it's best to make sure you don't react at all. Avoid laughing or getting angry and stay calm and ignore the word and explain that you prefer them to use nice words. It is far better to encourage them to get attention for good behaviour, so give attention and praise when your child uses polite language.

    5. THEY NEED A MORAL COMPASS.

    Children always need guidance and a moral compass of what is right and wrong. Children who use swear words at school or in society whether it is as a joke or as offensive language or if it simply slips out are usually reprimanded or looked down upon.  Which is not helping them in anyway.

    So as a parent we are not trying to make ourselves or our kids perfect, but rather keep guiding them to a moral compass that will give them a good foundation in life. After all that's our job :)

    Leave your comments and thoughts about this below, it is great to hear from you..