Unleash your child's greatness!
CHILDREN'S INTERNAL BELIEF SYSTEM
Six ways to make sure it's unstoppable!
Welcome to the Child BehaviourBlog.
I don't know about you, but I spent most of my life never questioning my belief system. I am still discovering limiting beliefs I have carried since childhood. Unfortunately, these beliefs ran deep and kept me from being the best I could be.
Today I work hard to question my beliefs daily, and it’s helped me become more of my authentic self.
As a mum, I wasn't quite prepared for how hard it would be not to pass on or create limiting beliefs in my children, and being mindful of my own has helped me do the same for them.
As parents, we are the most influential people in our child's life, and we significantly impact whether they feel unstoppable; luckily, we can do plenty to make our child's belief system unstoppable and here are some tips to help.
As a mum, I wasn't quite prepared for how hard it would be not to pass on or create limiting beliefs in my children, and being mindful of my own has helped me do the same for them.
As parents, we are the most influential people in our child's life, and we significantly impact whether they feel unstoppable; luckily, we can do plenty to make our child's belief system unstoppable and here are some tips to help.
From the moment children are born, their brains are like little sponges, soaking up all the information around them. The environment we create for them shapes and influences their brain development as they embody the same beliefs, habits, coping mechanisms, communication styles and emotional regulation as we do.
A child who grows up in a family that values honesty and integrity will develop these traits and see them as important in their lives. Similarly, a child exposed to violence or aggression may develop a belief system that considers these behaviours acceptable or normal.
Children will grow up unaware of this happening because it's subconscious. Their brain will grow neural pathways as they learn new things and experience new sensations; this is neuroplasticity.
When a child learns a new skill, such as bike riding, the brain forms new neural pathways that help them coordinate their movements. As they continue to practice, these neural pathways strengthen, and riding a bike becomes second nature.
YOUR words become their inner voice
How we communicate with our children is vitally important.
When we verbally or non-verbally communicate negative things to children, such as telling them they are naughty, lazy, shy, forgetful, clumsy, spiteful, or stupid, their brains establish neural pathways, and negative beliefs are created that become their inner voice. Like a tape recorder repeatedly playing in their mind, their inner voice unconsciously knocks their confidence, and they won't know why.
This can happen anytime, such as when they walk into a new classroom or situation, and they get a little subconscious reminder not to forget that they are shy and don't like meeting new people, which holds them back from being the actual friendly, sociable person they are, and they won't know why.
Most parents would not purposefully do this; for the most part, they are parenting on autopilot from their own beliefs as a child.
Luckily, the mind is not fixed or unchangeable, and with conscious thinking, time and experience, children can learn new perspectives and behaviours that can reshape their beliefs. However, it can be difficult to change deeply ingrained beliefs and attitudes that have been conditioned over a long time, especially if we are unaware of them.
This is why it is vital to be mindful of how we shape our child's minds so they don't have to unlearn negative beliefs that hold them back and instead have an inner voice that helps unleash their greatness.
A healthy, positive belief system really can encourage children to be unstoppable. It will build their self-esteem and confidence, so they learn to trust themselves and their abilities.
A robust positive belief system builds resilience so children can handle life's ups and downs, create positive relationships and be happy.
This can happen anytime, such as when they walk into a new classroom or situation, and they get a little subconscious reminder not to forget that they are shy and don't like meeting new people, which holds them back from being the actual friendly, sociable person they are, and they won't know why.
Most parents would not purposefully do this; for the most part, they are parenting on autopilot from their own beliefs as a child.
Luckily, the mind is not fixed or unchangeable, and with conscious thinking, time and experience, children can learn new perspectives and behaviours that can reshape their beliefs. However, it can be difficult to change deeply ingrained beliefs and attitudes that have been conditioned over a long time, especially if we are unaware of them.
This is why it is vital to be mindful of how we shape our child's minds so they don't have to unlearn negative beliefs that hold them back and instead have an inner voice that helps unleash their greatness.
A healthy, positive belief system really can encourage children to be unstoppable. It will build their self-esteem and confidence, so they learn to trust themselves and their abilities.
A robust positive belief system builds resilience so children can handle life's ups and downs, create positive relationships and be happy.
Parents are the most influential people in a child's life, and significantly impact whether they feel unstoppable.
Six ways to make your child's belief system unstoppable
1
Be a positive role model
As a parent, modelling the positive behaviours you want your child to have, such as confidence and respect, means children are more likely to do for themselves.
On the other hand, when we model negative behaviours such as self-sabotage and people-pleasing emotional outbursts or anger, we unconsciously tell our children this is ok.
We can show children by example and introduce inspirational people into their lives. Dr Wayne W. Dyer has been a positive role model to millions and believed that if children could hold on to no-limit thinking, they could learn to truly enjoy life and become unstoppable as they strive to attain their dreams.
On the other hand, when we model negative behaviours such as self-sabotage and people-pleasing emotional outbursts or anger, we unconsciously tell our children this is ok.
We can show children by example and introduce inspirational people into their lives. Dr Wayne W. Dyer has been a positive role model to millions and believed that if children could hold on to no-limit thinking, they could learn to truly enjoy life and become unstoppable as they strive to attain their dreams.