The rescuer is someone who intervenes in the situation to help the victim but may do so in a way that perpetuates the drama and reinforces the victim's sense of helplessness. They may feel a sense of moral superiority or obligation to help but ultimately enable the victim to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions.
Here are some examples of the rescuer role:
Taking responsibility for others:
Rescuers tend to take on the responsibility for solving other people's problems, even when it's not their job or responsibility. They may feel obligated to help others and may put their needs and priorities aside.
Rescuers may become overly involved in other people's lives and problems. They may try to control or micromanage others, leading to resentment and conflict.
Lack of boundaries:
Rescuers may have difficulty setting and enforcing boundaries with others. They may have trouble saying no or standing up for themselves, leading to burnout and exhaustion.
Need for validation:
Rescuers may derive a sense of self-worth and validation from helping others. They may feel a sense of importance or superiority by being the one who saves the day.
Rescuers may inadvertently enable others to continue their dysfunctional behaviour by not allowing them to take responsibility for their own lives.
Constantly rescuing others may prevent them from learning and growing from their mistakes.